"Dance of a Relationship" is an observation how we tip toe or move about in our relationships. Are we the leader or do we follow.
The dance is most often run by fear. Fear is our built-in alarm system; it is triggered when our survival is threatened. Losing connection with our loved one causes us to feel like our survival is in danger. This is natural and normal. However, the dances we do when we don’t feel safe can cause damage to our relationships.
Some of us respond to these threats by energetically going out of ourselves and trying to re-connect. However, when we are being run by fear, our attempts to connect may look and feel unsafe to our partners. In our attempts to draw comfort and reassurance from our partners we may be tentative and unclear. On the other hand, we may be clingy and needy. Or we demand rather than request. Our calls for connection may be tinged with anger, frustration, blame and criticism. Possibly we do not feel safe or deserving of the connection we need. Our bids to re-connect may end in power struggles rather than the embraces we long for. Whatever this looks like, what we are really saying is “Notice me. Be with me. Pay attention to me. I need you.”
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